No matter what we do, what we say, there’s something we will always regret, and that’s life. it may take an extra long time before we get over all the ‘could haves’ and ‘should haves’. We regret on relationships, on education, on life and most of all we regret on ourselves. We regret that we missed out on what others didn’t, on the places we could have holiday-ed in, the teachers we could have chucked out of the schoolroom window and the relationships we could have stopped souring etc.
Regret, the one thing that will always remind us of those incompetent stages of our lives. But for some reason we tend to forget all the things we did manage to achieve, of all we gained and of all the new people who entered our lives and left their mark.
Life isn’t fair, we’ve been told that one way or another ever since we were little, it may have been something we wanted and were told no and said that’s not fair, and the typical ‘I’m a parent and therefore am superior than you’ reply? “Well life’s not fair”. For some reason the meaning of these small yet very wise words don’t really hit us until we’re much older and (apparently) wiser and we finally realise, it’s true! Life really isn’t fair and there’s not a damn thing we can do about it, except maybe just take it on the chin and carry on as if the sun shines from our butts.
Yesterday wasn’t exactly the best of days for me, hence my melancholy, dramatic, damsel in distress attitude, but one thing I learnt a long time ago is that no matter what they say, what they do, or how they treat you? Never show them that it may just have a tiny bit stung. Staying quite isn’t always a bad thing, it sometimes works in your favour, it stops you from saying something you’ll later regret.
“Words said in anger, hold only candor (c)Peanut
Keeping quite may just stop you from adding another tick to your Regret List. But saying that? do keep in mind that speaking out may also just keep the ‘regret list’ to a minimum. The trick is to know when to speak out and when to hold back. It’ll take a while but I’m sure you’ll get there one day, with a bit of practice, hopefully I will too.